As I mentioned, yesterday was 7 years since my dad died in a car accident. Even as I type those words, I fight to believe them. It does not seem like it is possible my strong, healthy, funny dad is gone. It does not seem possible that he was not at my wedding and has not met any of my children.
I have a lot of regrets over some lost time with my dad. There was some time after college where we were quite far apart on several issues. It made conversation hard. I didn’t know how to work through the issues, so I let the 4 hours that separated us be a safe barrier between us. I know why, and my reasons were valid, but I regret it, nonetheless.
But this is not about regret, it is about being grateful. And I am extremely grateful for a conversation I had with my dad exactly 2 weeks before he died.
I had just gotten engaged to the amazing man I now call my hubby. It was a dream come true. And we were making the rounds telling people. I was looking forward to telling my dad.
So I called him one morning on my way to work. I had gotten up very early and was headed into work about 5:30. My dad was also an early riser. Always had been. I thought he was nuts. So that Wednesday morning, I called him to tell him just that! “Dad, I still think your nuts be here I am almost to work too.”
We talked about the engagement, the beginnings of our wedding plans and a few other things I don’t quite remember. But what I do remember is that I hung up the phone feeling very healed. Like things were much better between us
Just two weeks later he was gone, and I was left with my regrets, but also with that one call. That healing call. And for that I am eternally grateful.
That is my 5 minutes writing about what I am grateful. Won’t you join the fun?
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