Suck it up or Let it out

My doctor is a psychiatrist, can prescribe medications, and a psychotherapist, does talk therapy.  I am very blessed to have one who does both.  It is the ideal situation for treating bipolar, but is hard to find.

I see him once a week.  Sometimes we deal primarily with medications.  Sometimes we work more on the therapy side.

This week was more therapy side.  It is harder work for me, but where I hope to see long-term results.

Did I mention this week was a lot of talk?  Well it was.  Starting with, what went on this week.  I blanked.  Apparently, if you ask me about my week straight up, I can’t remember a thing…you have to lead me to it with more specific questions.

We moved on to my transitions blog post.  He read it and then I gave a synopsis of the amazing comments people left.  In the end, my take away was, be sad for a while, miss what is past but suck it up and move on.

Shockingly, he didn’t agree.  Crazy, isn’t it, that a therapist wouldn’t agree with that?

And we talked about it.  About the need to express thoughts, feelings and emotions.  We talked about how I express things on my blog, he was glad to hear I am back to writing, but that I, again, tend to suck it up.  I decide nothing can change by talking about a situation, so why talk about it.  He believes that “sucking it up” is actually sucking it in, or stuffing it.  He also thinks this is a bad idea.  He says expressing it, whatever it is, helps it lose its power; it helps to get rid of the pain or the issues ability to cause depression and anxiety.

Honestly, I do feel better about a couple things that we talked about.  I feel validated.  But in other areas, I’m not so sure.  I don’t know if talking about it will help, but what I’ve been doing all these years hasn’t worked, so I might as well keep giving this a try.  He’s been right about so many things.  I’m willing to trust the process.

Will you continue to join me on this journey of self discovery–without thinking I’m off my rocker?

Survive til you Thrive!

2 Responses to Suck it up or Let it out

  1. You are not off your rocker. It’s scary to talk out all of those feelings when you’ve been stuffing them inside (aka “sucking it up”) for all these years. That coping mechanism is familiar like a blanket, and letting go of that can be scary. I continue to have mini aha moments throughout my therapy. Huge hugs as you continue on this journey of self-discovery.

  2. I think that “suck it up” and “man up” and “put on your big girl panties” are all really well meaning but hurtful advice, even to yourself. They imply that what you’re feeling wasn’t valid and you should be able to will yourself to get over it. Can you be gentle with yourself and instead try to “accept” the feeling? Like, hey, this is sad, and I’m sad about it. And it isn’t the whole story and it doesn’t have to own me, but it is what it is. For me, when I stop trying to fight the feelings and just let them have their space they tend to calm down on their own. I usually have to spend a whole day running around looking for “solutions” before I remember that though 😉

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