I look at myself and I see a fish. A fish that has been pulled out of the water and is now flopping every which way on the pier. This way and that. Struggling to find a comfortable spot.
The last 5 years have been hard. Patrice will be 5 August 7. So, that is when my postpartum depression started, but the struggle came a month before when Patrice did some flopping around of her own. I was on a crazy roller coaster of emotions as she moved in and out of breech for the last 5 weeks.
I cried, I prayed, I sang, I played music to her. I even put clothespins on my baby toes. Don’t ask, it didn’t work.
Thankfully she decided head down was a nice position and she was born without much trouble–besides the cord being wrapped around her neck, but my midwife quickly took care of that.
She came. She was beautiful. Our family was perfect.
I was anything but.
Five years later I live with a handful of pills three times a day to control the Bipolar Disorder II that came after the postpartum depression and anxiety.
But the last weeks have been good. I came out of my last depression May 14. That makes this good stretch 2 months long. I haven’t had that much since Patrice started flopping in my belly. I have days that are harder than others, today being one, but overall, I am in a great place.
So why the flopping fish? I can’t find a comfortable spot in the good. I feel like I am continually flopping around trying to settle in and enjoy; every blip unsettles me. I am sure this is the day the darkness or the mania will come. But, thankfully, it hasn’t been that day yet. And yet, I find myself questioning every moment, every feeling.
Will I ever be comfortable here? I want to be, but I have no idea how to relax my brain after all these years. My mind has betrayed me so many times I don’t trust it in anyway.
But I breathe. I look for comfort. I look for that peace. I reflect on the two months. I work to rest my soul, to nurture myself, to heal during this time.
I have no confidence this will last forever, but I am hoping to stop flopping long enough to enjoy it!