Category Archives: wedding

To Give or Not to Give

Ten years ago right now hubby and I were planning our wedding. Bridesmaid dresses were ordered.  We were finalizing invitations and closing in on menus, anticipating a day neither of us ever thought would come.

One thing I didn’t have to do?  Buy my wedding dress.

I was engaged once before.  I found my dream dress.  No one but my mother ever saw it.  Even after the engagement ended, it was still my dream dress.  It almost got donated to Goodwill by the dress shop, but I “happened” to call on the day it was slated to be donated.

My grandma stored my dress after I rescued it.  Now, I had a dress, but no one to stand beside me.

But I couldn’t let it go.

Along came this guy, this great guy.  One thing lead to another and I had an engagement ring on my finger, and his agreement that I should wear my dress, regardless of how it had come into my possession.

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I love my dress.  So very much.  Wearing it next to my wonderful hubby was more precious than I could have ever imagined.

After our wonderful day, I began researching how to get it cleaned and cared for in the best way possible.  I found a place to take it.  They cleaned it and boxed it for me.

Now it sits, in the back of a closet.  Not discarded, but rarely thought of.  Hubby has asked what I want to do with it.  I always brush it off.  “I don’t know.  Do you think one of the girls will want to wear it?”

Once again, the conversation is abandoned.

So it sits.

Recently a tweet caught my eye.  It was about donating wedding gowns so they can be made into gowns for babies who die before or at birth, or who never leave the hospital to go home with those who love them.

My heart feels a tug.

What about my dress?

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Can I bear to give it away?

Sue, in the wonderful voice of a 6 year old, declares she wants to wear my dress…but she has so many years.  Won’t she want to pick her own? She did fall in love with the same part I did at the very beginning…that bead work on the bodice.  It still makes my breath catch in my throat.

I’ve polled Facebook.  I’ve polled Twitter.  Everyone’s experience with their wedding is so personal, there is no magic answer for the dress.  I look at my Sue, whom I hold in my arms every day, and my heart sees the mamas laying their babies to rest.  My gown may or may not adorn Sue on her day.  Could it, should it, rather bring just a bit of comfort to mamas and their hurting hearts?  Do I hold on, or let go?

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A Good Week

Wind and fun

I was quiet this week because we were undertaking a big trip to Minnesota for a family wedding.  But I am home…and blogging is way more fun than cleaning!  Here are a few pictures from time spent at Lake Michigan as we traveled to and from.

Not so sure about sand

Exploring a little more

Improvising and Climbing

Loving on each other

First catch of the day

And moments later, Sue's catch

Geoff Moore And The Distance – If You Could See What I See Lyrics

Hubby and I have been married seven years.  It is a joy to say that.  I was sure I would never find someone who could love me and my health issues, Multiple Sclerosis, asthma, both of which are in remission and have been for several years.  So glad my boyfriend, then fiance, could look past those things to see me. 

The above song was in our wedding.  Two of my cousins did an incredible job singing it. 

And my very soon to be hubby cried.  A girl can’t ask for more than that! 

taking a moment to relax at the reception before being announced as Mr. and Mrs. 

A quick picture with my beloved cousin and maid of honor, Lisa.

Wedding Day Bliss

Yesterday my hubby and I attended the wedding of a very sweet couple.  All that getting ready and getting to the wedding was an undertaking…and we weren’t even getting married, just trying to get two kids ready to go to their Aunt’s and drive to the wedding.  Whew!

We really enjoyed the wedding.  Not only are the two who got married really sweet and well matched, but their service was beautiful.  It was very scripture based and included so much of what we believe.  They talked about how God is the focus of our lives.  And the scripture truths of why and how He designed marriage.

The pastor talked about how we need to keep a priority on our marriage and protect it.  How we need to make time for each other (even after kids…), how we are there for each other and how important communication is.  It all spoke right to my heart.  I don’t even know how many times I squeezed my hubby’s hand in agreement with what the pastor was saying.

It was really nice.  And we as a couple are not big on time away from our kids, so the time together while they were at their aunt’s was nice.  We got to talk and eat a dinner without once telling someone to ‘SIT DOWN’ or ‘PUT THAT DOWN.’ Or the myriad of things that you normally get to say during a meal, especially away from home.  We did not get every conversation we have been saving up all talked out, but we started a lot of them.  And we’ll look for times to finish them, or for the next installment.

Many blessings to the new couple.  Thank you for inviting us to share your wonderful day, the reminders of our wonderful day 5+ years ago and for the kid-free time!

We did not take pictures of their lovely day, though I look forward to seeing them all, but here is one from our own wedding day in 2004.